You’ve found yourself in a bit of a situation, you now have no idea what to do about it or how to keep sane – You’ve moved in with your partner!! Socks on the floor, toilet seat always up, hair pins in every place you look and now you’re starting to wonder why oh why you decided to move in together! At first it seemed like a cute idea, move in together, morning sex, afternoon sex, late night sex, watch series after series on Netflix, breakfast in bed, decorate together and take trips to Ikea to buy cute homeware. You also had expectations when it came to keeping the place tidy i.e sharing the chores, cooking together and sharing the laundry. But your expectations don’t quite match up to the reality right? No one said it’ll be easy, in fact living with your partner takes some getting use to. Here are some helpful tips to keep you sane and help you to work through those more trialling moments.
Don’t expect too much
We all have expectations, yes even your partner too. Learn when enough is enough & when you need to lower your expectations, you don’t want to come across naggy or potentially start a row! Absolutely no one likes to hear criticism (unless of course you do & I’m completely wrong!) so bare that in mind when approaching a confrontation, expecting too much especially if your partner isn’t use to it can be dangerous territory, prepare for changes to take time but also be willing to change things yourself too.
Its not a one way street
If your partner does things that irritate you bare in mind you probably to do things that your partner doesn’t like too. When you decide to move in together its no longer just about you and what you want/need you’ll both need to compromise & adjust your new living situation. Yeah you’ll probably feel like your frustrations are more important because they are directly effecting you, but your partner has feelings too! If you tell your partner off for not changing the loo roll make sure you are conscious of doing that yourself every time too. There is nothing worse than complaining about something and being caught out for doing that same thing!
Be courteous and graceful
Its easy to take all your stresses out on the person causing them when you’re feeling deflated but remember to stay courteous. Approach it nicely, remain calm & collected and remember its hard to please everyone so show a little grace. Go in all guns blazing & you really could damage a good thing!
Start a rota
You’ll both need to equally share the chores/housework, a rota is the best place to start. Depending on your work schedules agree who will do what each day, and stick with it!! The little things such as making the bed or washing up are easy to deal with – The last person to get out of the bed makes it and you both wash up whatever you use straight away, this will reduce cleaning times and no one will have to fight over who’s doing the washing up (Because we all hate it just as much as the next person)!
Execute nice gestures
Remember you still love each other (If you don’t you should maybe think twice about living together!). Nice gestures go a long way! Just because you now live together doesn’t mean that spark has burnt out, keep that spark alive!! If I know my partner loves a good massage I’m going to take time to make him feel special and wanted. Granted this won’t happen all the time but remember its an important part of any relationship. It can be something as small as leaving him/her a note in their coat pocket or somewhere they are bound to find it! Easy right?
Most importantly remember to have fun! You should both be enjoying this new voyage together, new territory, exciting prospects! Don’t always take life too seriously there are worse things happening and a dirty sock on the floor isn’t one of them!!