No one likes negativity right? So why do we surround ourselves with it!? I must admit I’m quite the pessimist but knowing that about myself makes me want to be more of an optimist! I’m forever excusing my pessimism saying things like ‘thats just how I’m wired, I can’t help it’, ‘Its just a part of me’, ‘I can’t change that’. But what if we can change the way we think? What if instead of being so negative about everything we try to be positive and find the silver lining in all situations? What if we say goodbye negativity and begin a calmer, happier journey to positivity?
Positivity can transform your life – Now I sound like some sort of guru. I’m not a guru I promise. You’ll be less stressed, healthier and feel great about life and yourself. Saying goodbye to negativity could be the best thing you’ve ever done and here are a few tips on how!!
Say Goodbye To Negative People
I know saying goodbye to people sounds harsh and drastic but keeping those people in your life could cause more harm then good to your own mental state. Whether its deleting them off facebook, or your life entirely, do what YOU think is best. Don’t let guilt get in the way, do what you have to do. Maybe it only makes sense in your own head but if it makes you happier and at peace then you can find comfort knowing its for the best. Thanks for the experiences, thanks for the time shared, but now I have to move on.
Don’t Hold Grudges
This is one thats obviously easier said than done. When we feel like someone has wronged us, threatened us in some way, or not been the person we thought they were we can end up feeling angry towards them. When that anger festers it turns into serious negativity, you begin to feel bitter feelings & emotions and eventually you’re holding a grudge. I’ve been at the centre of many grudges towards people, perhaps even grudges the other person didn’t know about – This does no good! My mental state is riddled with anxiety and anger, I have terrible dreams or find it hard to sleep, I feel so sick I can’t eat or I eat too much! Nothing a grudge promotes is positive its actually very unhealthy and brings out the worst in us. Let that shit go, come to terms with it! People change, situations change, change is a part of life, move on.
Say No To Online Feuds
Theres no denying that the online world has taken over, if we aren’t constantly checking our facebook notifications, we’re scrolling through our twitter timelines or finding a picture to post on Instagram. Online feuds are a pretty rife thing and sometimes theres no escaping them if you feel strongly enough about something. Make it a mental note to yourself that you’ll try to avoid all types of online disagreements, if that means keeping your opinions to yourself whilst online, do it. If it means feeling quietly upset about something online so be it, but do not enter the trap of getting yourself into a flurry over one persons opinions. Online feuds are often the worst kind since everything is typed, the way things are meant to be said can get lost or misconstrued & suddenly you’ve caused more harm than you ever intended. I’ve been really mindful of this lately and it does make a big difference!
Scroll Past Negative Articles
I know we are all a little (or a lot) intrigued when we read a shocking headline of a news article. What would be worth knowing is that the media plays up to their competition, not all their information is reliable or fact, & often its made to sound worse to entice readers and make it look as though they are the first source with new information. Aside from that, reading negative news stories about the world we all have to live in promotes nothing but negative thoughts and feelings, sometimes even fear and anxiety. Don’t do it to yourself! Pleasantly scroll on past or chuck that newspaper straight into your recycling bin its not worth the hassle!
Surround Yourself With Feel Good People
You’ll want to surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you, people that make you feel good that you enjoy spending time with. Luckily for me my husband is one of the most positive people I know and he always encourages me to see the good in a bad situation. He also gives me a logical explanation to the way I feel about certain things, he really does bring out the best in me! People who aren’t so positive can end up wearing you down to a point were you don’t feel like spending too much time with them and you might also start to enjoy their company less. Thats okay, we still need to be there for our friends when they are going through life, just be deliberate to hang out with or talk to the friends that make your mental state a happier and unburdened one a lot more.
Little things that aid you in feeling good and positive are: Getting enough sleep, starting the day early (nothing worse than waking up having missed most of the day), eating healthier good for you foods, setting yourself goals (in life or around the home), spend regular time on a hobbie that you love, take up regular excersise classes, generally just look after you!!
Now go and enjoy a more happier, healthy you – For yourself & those around you!