If theres one thing in the world that we can all agree on its that we all want to be loved. We are all searching for that person/s that we can share our happiest and saddest moments with, experience new adventures with, love deeply and feel that love back. No one wants to be alone and the ever growing world of online dating certainly proves that! You’ll know if you regularly read my blog or follow me on Twitter that I’m married, Sean and I have been together for 9 years, married for 5 years in July, and have two amazing children together. We are both 25. Relationships aren’t easy, in fact every relationship has their ups and downs but you need to be able to identify if you’re in a healthy, loving relationship or a toxic one! Here are 8 signs that you’re in a loving relationship and can survive just about anything!
You’d assume that this is an easy one, although I think you’d be surprise by how many relationships fail because of lack of communication. You should feel comfortable to tell your partner how you’re feeling about something, if your feelings have been hurt or you just need to get something off your chest. Likewise for your partner. Its key to remember that communications and confrontation are two different things. Confrontation will immediately get anyones back up, no one likes hearing criticism. Be mindful of how you bring something to attention, if you communicate regularly you’re on the right tracks to a long lasting relationship.
You can be yourself around each other
In the ‘honeymoon’ phase of a relationship you’re still working out what each others boundaries are, and you certainly don’t want to get too comfortable too soon – Don’t fart in front of them!! Don’t take a dump in their toilet!! Don’t let them see how weird I really am!! – Eventually you’ll grow more comfortable in your relationship together and you can let loose! Being 100% yourself around each other (all weird and wonderful too) is a major milestone and key part of any successful relationship! No one wants to go through the disappointment or shock when they find out they’ve been in a lengthly relationship with someone they don’t really know!
You laugh together often
I’m not saying you both have to be comedians or anything but a little laughter goes a long way. Apparently its scientifically proven that women are more attracted to someone that can make them laugh and if you laugh together often well that speaks for itself! Laughing = happiness and those feel good endorphins everyone bangs on about! This could explain the slightly weird crush I have on Adam Sandler!!
You share equal responsibility
In a healthy relationship you’ll share equal responsibility when it comes to house chores, looking after pets, taking care of the children etc. Its definitely not the 1950s anymore, women aren’t suppose to run around and pander to the needs of their man whilst not being loved or cared for in the same way! A healthy, loving relationship requires the commitment of both partners and yes this sometimes means you’ll have to do the washing up even if you don’t really want to. There is no hierarchy in a relationship so sharing equal responsibility in all aspects just confirms that.
You have fun in the bedroom
As time goes on and your relationship matures things can start to change. In a lot of relationships sex becomes more of an issue than a pleasure! More and more relationships are failing due to couples feeling ‘bored’ or because they’re not having as much sex with their partners as they use to! If you can still have fun in the bedroom without it feeling forced or dull or like you have to make up an excuse to get out of it you’re definitely in a healthy, loving relationship! Sex is a major component in a relationship; make it fun if its feeling dull, try new things, talk openly with your partner about sex and you’ll be well on your way to a very satisfying session!!!
You trust each other
I think this is probably the most important of all 8 points! Trust has to be present in the relationship for it to work and be fruitful for you both. If you’re worried or constantly stressed out when your partner goes out with friends you need to work on your trust, especially if your partner has never given you a reason to doubt them! If you both trust each other you’ll both be happy and the relationship will flourish. Trust is fundamental in a healthy relationship!
You can spend a day apart
In a healthy relationship you should be able to spend time apart as well as together! You both have your own friends as well as your mutual ones and you both have your own hobbies too. Take some time out from each other and focus on you. You really don’t want to act too clingy or spend so much time together that you end up getting sick of each other!
You try new things together
Trying new things together with your partner can be a real bonding experience especially if its something you’re both mutually willing to try. This bonding experience will enable you to communicate with each other in a really positive way whilst also giving you the opportunity to create really special memories together. Everyone remembers the first time they try something, the memories will last a lifetime!