8 Signs You’re In A Healthy, Loving Relationship

If theres one thing in the world that we can all agree on its that we all want to be loved. We are all searching for that person/s that we can share our happiest and saddest moments with, experience new adventures with, love deeply and feel that love back. No one wants to be alone and the ever growing world of online dating certainly proves that! You’ll know if you regularly read my blog or follow me on Twitter that I’m married, Sean and I have been together for 9 years, married for 5 years in July, and have two amazing children together. We are both 25. Relationships aren’t easy, in fact every relationship has their ups and downs but you need to be able to identify if you’re in a healthy, loving relationship or a toxic one! Here are 8 signs that you’re in a loving relationship and can survive just about anything!

You communicate!

You’d assume that this is an easy one, although I think you’d be surprise by how many relationships fail because of lack of communication. You should feel comfortable to tell your partner how you’re feeling about something, if your feelings have been hurt or you just need to get something off your chest. Likewise for your partner. Its key to remember that communications and confrontation are two different things. Confrontation will immediately get anyones back up, no one likes hearing criticism. Be mindful of how you bring something to attention, if you communicate regularly you’re on the right tracks to a long lasting relationship.

You can be yourself around each other

In the ‘honeymoon’ phase of a relationship you’re still working out what each others boundaries are, and you certainly don’t want to get too comfortable too soon – Don’t fart in front of them!! Don’t take a dump in their toilet!! Don’t let them see how weird I really am!! – Eventually you’ll grow more comfortable in your relationship together and you can let loose! Being 100% yourself around each other (all weird and wonderful too) is a major milestone and key part of any successful relationship! No one wants to go through the disappointment or shock when they find out they’ve been in a lengthly relationship with someone they don’t really know!

You laugh together often

I’m not saying you both have to be comedians or anything but a little laughter goes a long way. Apparently its scientifically proven that women are more attracted to someone that can make them laugh and if you laugh together often well that speaks for itself! Laughing = happiness and those feel good endorphins everyone bangs on about! This could explain the slightly weird crush I have on Adam Sandler!!

You share equal responsibility

In a healthy relationship you’ll share equal responsibility when it comes to house chores, looking after pets, taking care of the children etc. Its definitely not the 1950s anymore, women aren’t suppose to run around and pander to the needs of their man whilst not being loved or cared for in the same way! A healthy, loving relationship requires the commitment of both partners and yes this sometimes means you’ll have to do the washing up even if you don’t really want to. There is no hierarchy in a relationship so sharing equal responsibility in all aspects just confirms that.

You have fun in the bedroom

As time goes on and your relationship matures things can start to change. In a lot of relationships sex becomes more of an issue than a pleasure! More and more relationships are failing due to couples feeling ‘bored’ or because they’re not having as much sex with their partners as they use to! If you can still have fun in the bedroom without it feeling forced or dull or like you have to make up an excuse to get out of it you’re definitely in a healthy, loving relationship! Sex is a major component in a relationship; make it fun if its feeling dull, try new things, talk openly with your partner about sex and you’ll be well on your way to a very satisfying session!!!

You trust each other

I think this is probably the most important of all 8 points! Trust has to be present in the relationship for it to work and be fruitful for you both. If you’re worried or constantly stressed out when your partner goes out with friends you need to work on your trust, especially if your partner has never given you a reason to doubt them! If you both trust each other you’ll both be happy and the relationship will flourish. Trust is fundamental in a healthy relationship!

You can spend a day apart

In a healthy relationship you should be able to spend time apart as well as together! You both have your own friends as well as your mutual ones and you both have your own hobbies too. Take some time out from each other and focus on you. You really don’t want to act too clingy or spend so much time together that you end up getting sick of each other!

You try new things together

Trying new things together with your partner can be a real bonding experience especially if its something you’re both mutually willing to try. This bonding experience will enable you to communicate with each other in a really positive way whilst also giving you the opportunity to create really special memories together. Everyone remembers the first time they try something, the memories will last a lifetime!

xox

58 Comments

  1. Penelope March 7, 2017 / 2:09 pm

    Trust and communication are so important in long term relationships, I remember early on worrying about telling my husband things and now I tell him everything!

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 7, 2017 / 7:26 pm

      Great isn’t it!! My husband is my best friend it’d be weird not telling him stuff!!

  2. Fiona Maclean March 7, 2017 / 6:28 pm

    Good sound advice. Now if only I could find the man to practise it with!

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 7, 2017 / 7:27 pm

      It will happen 🙂 glad you liked the post!

  3. Vanessa Clayden March 7, 2017 / 7:28 pm

    Confirming that I am in that kind of relationship 🙂 Love it 🙂 xxx

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 8, 2017 / 8:49 am

      Awwwh I love that!!!

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 8, 2017 / 8:50 am

      Awwwh well thank you!! We do try! 😀

  4. Sarah Bailey March 7, 2017 / 10:56 pm

    Trust, communication and being yourself around each other are such important aspects of a healthy relationship. Without these things, I just don’t think there is much of a relationship at all. Fab post x

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 8, 2017 / 8:50 am

      Absolutely agreed!! I think they are the fundamentals in any relationship!

  5. Annie B March 8, 2017 / 7:17 am

    Some great points here – luckily I pretty much check all those boxes with my husband! Communication is key though to every element of a good relationship.

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 8, 2017 / 8:51 am

      Absolutely!! I think sometimes its hard to gauge where echoer are at so communication has to be a big aspect! Glad you can tick all the boxes! 😀

  6. Ladies Pass It On March 8, 2017 / 9:53 am

    For someone so young you are very switched on! I loved this post and totally agree – keep up the good work lovely!

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 8, 2017 / 10:02 am

      Thank you!! I get that a lot actually I think having kids matures you more than you think. I’m really pleased you loved the post, just pleased people read it to be honest! xox

  7. The London Mum March 8, 2017 / 10:18 am

    I totally agree with all of these. They’re so important to having a healthy happy relationship.

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 8, 2017 / 12:01 pm

      I’m glad you agree! They are all so important!

  8. Mollie Willson March 8, 2017 / 10:38 am

    Yay this makes me feel so lucky to be able to relate 🙂
    Happiest 3 and a half years of my life!

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 8, 2017 / 12:02 pm

      Awwh that is so lovely!!!

  9. Stephanie Merry March 8, 2017 / 10:41 am

    Completely agree with you on this, unfortunately it just proves I’ve not always been in the healthiest of relationships in the past x

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 8, 2017 / 12:03 pm

      Oh don’t worry we have all been there, now you know what to look for in your future relationships!

  10. Jessica & James March 8, 2017 / 10:52 am

    This is such an important post and it’s so beautiful! Definitely agree with all of this, communication is everything! Thank you for sharing your realatiobship goal insight! Love you guys!

    Jessica & James | foodandbaker.co.uk

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 8, 2017 / 12:05 pm

      Awwh love you guys too!! Communication is such a big deal because everyone communicates in really different ways, sometimes over communicating is best!

  11. StressedMum March 8, 2017 / 10:57 am

    These are all very true, and they are all equally important, I think a lot of people need to read this, I have learnt this the hard way in the past, but now am very lucky to have a healthy relationship x

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 8, 2017 / 12:06 pm

      Awwh thank you! Its definitely great to see where you did wrong in previous relationships, makes you appreciate your healthy relationship a lot more!

  12. Emily Leary March 8, 2017 / 1:32 pm

    I think a lot of these grow more and more true the longer you’re with someone, which is an amazing feeling.

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 8, 2017 / 1:59 pm

      Yes I believe so too!

  13. Anna nuttall March 8, 2017 / 5:06 pm

    This is very much me and my husband. We are complete soul mate and I can’t imagine my life without him. xx

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 8, 2017 / 8:55 pm

      Awwwh thats the sweetest thing!! My husband and I are the same!

  14. Rachel March 8, 2017 / 8:45 pm

    All of these points are just so very very true and it is one of the best feelings ever x

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 8, 2017 / 8:55 pm

      Oh I’m glad you agree!! 😀

  15. Sarah March 8, 2017 / 9:11 pm

    This is a lovely post, and so very true xxx

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 9, 2017 / 8:27 am

      🙂 Glad you enjoyed it!

  16. Rachel March 9, 2017 / 12:29 am

    Great post, so accurate and I 100% agree; communication is key! xo

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 9, 2017 / 8:28 am

      Its so important!! Really glad you enjoyed the read! xox

  17. Rhian Westbury March 9, 2017 / 9:25 am

    Great post here, thankfully I can say that me and my other half do all 8 of these things which makes me feel very happy x

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 9, 2017 / 11:40 am

      Awwwh yay!! Glad you enjoyed the read and glad you can totally relate! xox

  18. Emma March 9, 2017 / 6:43 pm

    I do think time apart is just as important as time together – you need to be a couple without losing sight of who you are as an individual. Having your own interests is very important!

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 9, 2017 / 8:30 pm

      Absolutely!! You summed it up pretty well!

  19. danasia fantastic March 9, 2017 / 6:56 pm

    This list is spot on. My boyfriend and I doing a good job at communicating, but it’s something we’re constantly working at.

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 9, 2017 / 8:32 pm

      Thank you!! Its great that you acknowledge its something you are constantly working on and thats a sign of a great relationship because you are putting the time and effort in!

  20. Ali - We Made This Life March 9, 2017 / 7:11 pm

    I agree with all of these, my husband and I have a lovely relationship, I’m really lucky.

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 9, 2017 / 8:33 pm

      Awwwh I love all these positive comments about your own relationships! Its lovely to hear so many couples are killing it!

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 10, 2017 / 10:56 am

      I’m pleased you enjoyed it!!

  21. Whatlauraloves March 10, 2017 / 2:11 am

    I couldn’t agree more with these! Especially laughing lots often, we do that so much xxx

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 10, 2017 / 10:57 am

      Haha yes its important to laugh a lot, my husband makes me laugh so much!

  22. Lianne March 10, 2017 / 4:06 pm

    Yes, these are good points. I’ve just separated from my partner after 8 years though 🙁

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 10, 2017 / 4:59 pm

      Oh no I’m really sorry to hear that Lianne!! I’m a very strong believer that everything happens for a reason, I hope you’re doing okay! xox

  23. Kira March 10, 2017 / 9:16 pm

    I was smiling all the way through this thinking yep 😀

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 11, 2017 / 9:34 am

      Awwwh I love that!!!

  24. Ana De- Jesus March 11, 2017 / 2:17 pm

    That is so sweet that you two were childhood sweethearts and are still together awwww. I agree if you still get excited by each other in the bedroom then you are in a healthy loving relationship x

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 11, 2017 / 5:50 pm

      Thank you!!!! Haha hes a special guy what can I say! Absolutely, there is no reason for it to go sour if you talk openly to eachother about it!

  25. Lubka Henry March 13, 2017 / 4:22 pm

    I love this post! I remember that when we were dating and already living together with my future husband, there was a time when I realised all of the above – things I hadn’t experienced before with anyone else. It was a great feeling and still is 🙂

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 13, 2017 / 5:38 pm

      Awwwh thats so lovely and a real testament to your relationship with him!! Lovely! xox

  26. Charlee March 14, 2017 / 11:21 am

    Trust is a big part of any relationship to grow and be strong.
    This made me smile though, as I related to my relationship with Robyn and it made me smile.
    Rose above the Thorns

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 14, 2017 / 6:20 pm

      I love that there are so many couples able to relate to this its awesome!!

  27. Chloe April 28, 2017 / 11:29 am

    This post made me smile so much. It’s so true though!

    Chloe x

    thengguidetolondon.blogspot.co.uk

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk April 28, 2017 / 12:33 pm

      Awwwh I’m so happy to hear that!! Thanks for reading Chloe! xox

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