Social media is intrusive – at least it can feel that way a huge chunk of the time!
We live in a time where the internet has taken over and social platforms are basically life!! However sometimes being in the thick of it 24/7 can really take its toll. I was always a Facebook kind of girl, that was until I started blogging and joined the world of Twitter, I previously had Twitter accounts but never really enjoyed using them since I found it to be a really negative platform! Anyway jump a few years into the future and there I am again on Twitter, everyday, barely using Facebook anymore. Turning from one social platform to another hasn’t completely changed my outlook on it as a whole though, it can be quite an unpleasant place to be sometimes. Taking time out and having a much needed break from social media has become a welcome thought and something I tend to do as soon as I’m feeling its getting in the way of actual real life!!
Here are 4 warning signs that indicate you need to take a break from all forms of social media ASAP…
You become obsessed with your following!
Only within the last year and a half I’ve become one of those I don’t give a shit kind of people, although sometimes my old thoughts and feelings of negativity come flooding back and social media has a big part to play in that! I find myself acting out of character as I become consumed with the social buzz – who’s unfollowed me today? I’ll think as I open my followers app, only to feel let down and disappointed that 30 odd people have unfollowed me on Twitter or instagram, some of them I follow back, some of them have tweeted me recently and we have engaged in conversation and I’m left wondering why?! Why did they unfollow me? What did I do wrong? Did I say something offensive? – This is 100% I-need-a-break-from-social-media behaviour!
Recently a bigger, more well known blogger unfollowed me. We’d engaged in conversations before, I’d included said person in my tweeted lists of inspiring bloggers, continuously showed my support for them and I thought we’d get along well if we had the opportunity to meet in real life. I was confused about being unfollowed and I was stuck wondering if I’d done something wrong! Its pretty sad to say but this was one that really bugged me and sadly I let it effect my entire day! I took a days break from social media after that, able to return with a clearer mind, positive attitude and my I don’t give a shit mantra well in tact! I mean not everyone will like you, not everyone will understand you, people unfollow and thats not a reflection on you. There are tons of reasons for someone to fuel their urge to click the unfollow button, all of which (after taking a Twitter time out) I no longer care about!
The bitch bug is getting you down!
See social media sometimes brings out the worst in us – our insecurities, our wanting to be liked, our need to feel accepted and sometimes as seen regularly on my timeline the bitchiness of others! I think it goes unsaid that you’ll find bitchy behaviour anywhere and everywhere on the internet! The thing is that when its on your timeline you can either choose to ignore it, let the bitchiness pass and carry on as normal or let it anger you so much that you constantly find yourself caught up in a social media bitch war. I’m more inclined to go for less stress option myself!
Bitchiness happens no matter who you are or what you do for a living/hobby! Opinions differ and for some reason people are more prone to let that fuel an argument and ruin friendships than they are to accept we all have our own opinions, whatever happened to friendly debates? Sometimes I’m quite shocked by what I see on my timeline, other times I think an argument thats broke out could have simply been avoided. Regardless of how you look at it, negativity attracts negativity, so when I constantly see fights break out and the bitch bug growing ferociously I start to feel really shit about being on social media, and as a bid to save my positive energy from turning sour I switch off for a while and later return to a timeline thats well and truly over all the bullshit!
You’re not being social IRL!
I’ll admit I’m much more social on Twitter than I am in real life, be it my social anxiety, fear of awkwardness or feeling exhausted there is something about social media that makes socialising and making friends so much more easier there! Admittedly social media has its perks i.e. making new friends you wouldn’t have otherwise met, or knowing a group of people that follow you are interested in what you have to say. BUT social media can also make you anti social without even realising!
Quite often I feel like I’d rather sit at home on Twitter in my pjs than go out for drinks with a friend, because on social media I don’t have social anxiety, I’m able to think of what I want to say and sass it up by using a shit ton of gifs, whereas a conversation with someone in real life can lead me to a place of awkwardness and silence! – Absorbing yourself into your timelines and avoiding real life relationships can be detrimental to your level of confidence and your self esteem in the real world! To build real substantial relationships and friendships you need the real life aspect too, you can’t solely rely on the forces of social media to do all the work for you!
You might not notice but social media can effect your other real life relationships if you’re becoming more and more engrossed in your timeline and less interested in spending time with friends or loved ones. I have a pet peeve when meeting up with friends who sit there constantly checking their phones, messaging and scrolling through their timelines, like HELLO is my company just not cutting it for you? I genuinely start to really dislike spending time and making effort with those people and its all because social media gets in the way of a good old fashion catch up!
Something fucks with your mental Feng Shui!
The internet is infinitely huge and because of this there is no telling what you might come across especially on social media! To one person sharing that post about some idiot who killed their animal out of spite might be their idea of spreading awareness that cruelty to animals is still alive, to someone like me however thats fucked me up and I can’t stop thinking about the awful scenario! Its not their fault, the person who shared it, but its made me want to be cautious on my timeline, its made me feel sick, and its definitely messed with my calm, positive mental attitude! This is prime time to step back from your socials and allow yourself to have that much needed self care time.
A little social media break always does me some good. I try to steer clear of negativity in any shape or form because I know how much it can effect me and as a mum I want to be able to parent with a happy state of mind. If you find yourself being effected by any of the above scenarios my advice is to just switch off!! Have a social media blackout and resume at a later date.