The Truth About Parenthood…

This morning I was up at 5.40am with both boys wide awake shouting for me, now I don’t know about you but I have to adjust when waking up, I’m not a spring chicken straight away! So my eldest gathered some toys ready to bring into my bed, I hopped over and got the youngest out of his cot and popped him down on the bed whilst I laid there trying to gather any ounce of energy within me. At this point I have kids climbing over me, the youngest is hitting me repeatedly with a hard toy whilst giving me the very cute and innocent smile he always gives me (this is so I forget what a lunatic he can be)! Then the hair pulling begins, in a bid to save myself I jump up trying to act alive and snappy, only to be greeted by a very foul smelling nappy that I immediately need to change. Whilst changing his poo butt I’m fighting with him as he tries to roll over and escape, and when all else fails he reaches for his bits! (A nappy change is not as easy as it seems!) Whilst this is going on my eldest is collecting things from the bathroom and chucking them both in his room and on my bed (ahhh more things to tidy up). Now I try to make the beds, I put the youngest on the floor with some toys whilst I struggle to pull the duvet up onto the bed properly, he is now screaming. My 3 year old keeps telling me he just wants to go downstairs to eat. Finally ready to head down, I turn off the alarm, gather my things, pick up baby, try to open the safety gate with one hand and head down with my other son following behind. Okay now we’re successfully downstairs, its just before 7am. I head to the kitchen & remember in my sleep deprived state last night I’d forgotten to put the dishwasher on (FAIL), dishwasher goes on. Three year old is saying ‘cereal mum’ over and over not listening to my ‘I’m doing it right now’ responses, cereal now on the table & eldest won’t eat it because he wants to play with his spiderman and hulk figures! (Ahhhh!) I grab a brioche bun for the youngest who seems to be demolishing it, I’m worried he’ll finish before I can make him something else which usually means meltdown mode will begin! In a panic I start to cut up some banana. There is a constant meowing and a cat weaving in and out of my legs (oh crap I need to feed the cat!) Youngest is screaming now because he has finished his brioche, onto the banana most of which is thrown at me! I make myself a green tea hoping I’ll find some inner peace at the bottom of my cup! My eldest has now finished his cereal and now wants toast. I pop the bread in the toaster but he doesn’t like the bread I’ve selected and is refusing to have it, eventually he gives in! Not even 8am yet, the boys are playing with their loudest toys! My eldest dismantles his basketball hoop and stand only to use the stand as a weapon for pretend spider hunting (when I say hunting I mean continuously smacking the floor with his pole over and over again, screaming and growling… Good morning neighbours)! I now try to down a slice of toast whilst the boys seem to be occupied… nope! The youngest has caught me and seems far more interested in my toast than his toys! Now they’ve managed to find the baby wipes & proceeded to take them ALL out of the pack. I put them all back, 5 minutes later they have found them again! The youngest has moved onto the telephone and is calling unknown numbers, I hide the phone.

Its finally 8am and the laundry needs sorting. I’m trying to keep the kids entertained, the youngest has a variety of clothes hangers to choose from and my eldest is watching youtube unboxing videos on his tablet. This doesn’t last long. My little one stands up whilst holding onto the lamp stand and decides to start shaking it for reasons I’ll never know. The lamp nearly falls on top of him so I one handedly save the day by catching the lamp, whilst holding a bunch of clothes in my other arm. Laundry done, I’ve spotted my eldest who has found the biscuits. He takes one and shares it with his brother they are in hysterics laughing (I’m reminded by how cute they are!), then they find the rest of the food cupboard! Cupboard contents sprawled across the floor I’m left to tidy it up, thats when my eldest tries coaxing his little brother into doing it again. My living room now looks like a bomb has hit it so I sweep and tidy just to keep my sanity. Biscuits are out again (Why did I sweep!?) Youngest hurts his hand and starts to cry so eldest rubs and kisses it better (again I’m reminded of their cuteness). Youngest wants holding, he is clung onto one of my legs, crying. I pick him up and tears stop immediately, he then pulls at my top because he wants my boob again for the 100th time this morning!

Its 9am & my youngest still wants holding! Eldest wants to race his brother whilst I try to explain he can’t race yet because he is too small, he is still persistent in asking his brother to race! Now my eldest needs to go to the toilet and he wants to go alone. After hearing the toilet flush and tap run indicating he is washing his hands I’m fairly confident everything went smoothly up there. Both boys are now trying to pull down the piles of washing that I just folded whilst screaming and laughing at each other. The tablet that my son wasn’t playing with anymore dies because I forgot to charge it… child is now in meltdown! (But you wasn’t even using it!!) I’m finally able to sit down for a minute, thank the Lord (this feels nice) and again my youngest starts crying, he wants my boob again! Whilst feeding I also have my eldest laying across me. Both boys start fighting for my attention. Again they start playing together so I take this opportunity to make myself another hot drink. I walk back into the living room to find dvds everywhere! (When will this madness end!?) The youngest of the two throws my phone on the floor whilst transforming into a monster & again he goes into meltdown mode… NAP TIME!!!!!

Finally after putting the youngest down for his nap I get the privilege of being able to go to the loo. Upon walking into the bathroom I discover toilet tissue has been thrown everywhere! What a mess! Mum cleans up again… Its not even 10am yet!

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To those of you that say parenting isn’t anything like a ‘proper’ job you’re right, its nothing like a proper job – its harder! We don’t get sick days, we don’t get holiday time off, we don’t get to go home for a break and head back the next day, we don’t get weekends off or lunch breaks! We are on duty 24/7, we never switch off!!

Moral of the story – Don’t underestimate the job of a parent!

To all parents out there I salute you!! And to parents with more children than I, you are my idols!! Single parents… How do you do it!? You are all incredible!

xox

68 Comments

  1. Leigh Travers March 10, 2016 / 7:18 pm

    I absolutely loved this post and the way you have written it. As someone who has not yet experienced parenthood, it was a great insight into what life as a mother is like.

    I do always admire parents from afar as they’re usually performing some sort of balancing act with their kids, bags and everything else – that’s impressive!

    • cheskaaanels March 10, 2016 / 7:21 pm

      Awwh I’m really glad you enjoyed the read! Honestly parenthood can be exhausting but its also so rewarding! Before I was a parent I had no idea what it took, its really easy to take your own parents for granted, now I know! xox

  2. atticsecrets1979 March 10, 2016 / 8:33 pm

    Remember those days well 😯 people tell you it ll get easier …
    they re lying 😉 xxxxĺ

      • atticsecrets1979 March 11, 2016 / 10:23 am

        Lol sorry about the l at the end – that was my 7 year old sons contribution 😉 xx

        • cheskaaanels March 11, 2016 / 11:46 am

          Haha mine are forever adding bits and pieces to my messages too!

  3. Sam rowswell March 11, 2016 / 7:26 am

    I’m totally with you! Everything you described, I could relate to lol I became a single mother at just 17. I’m now 33 with a 16, 14 and a 3yr old. I can gladly say that there will be NO more babies!! My patience has definitely thinned out as I’ve grown up lol

    • cheskaaanels March 11, 2016 / 7:39 am

      Oh wow that must have been a struggle at 17, how have you survived!? Haha 🙂 oh gosh yes patience you need tons of it, I was never a very patient person so I’ve had to adjust and grow in patience, its still a struggle sometimes I’ll forever wonder how my mum did it! xox

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  5. Megan Indoe March 11, 2016 / 9:36 am

    My first reaction to this is OMG I am not ready for kids. It’s a great reminder of how much work being a parent is and we should really appreciate all mother and fathers out there. I think it’s really interesting that mothers nowadays have the internet to connect with other mothers out there and to have outlets like this available to them. Thanks for sharing

    • cheskaaanels March 11, 2016 / 9:38 am

      Haha it takes a lot of work! I’m glad you enjoyed the read! And yes I agree having the internet is amazing if it wasn’t for that I may not be as sane as I am today lol

  6. 5cheekymonkeys March 11, 2016 / 9:40 am

    haha the cereal saga!! I don’t know how many times I have to say to my toddler yes i’m doing it right now, see this, this is YOUR bowl for YOUR cereal! Ahhh the joys of parenting! I can relate to this all so much.

    • cheskaaanels March 11, 2016 / 9:42 am

      Hahaha its so real isn’t it! I can’t even count the amount of times I repeat myself in one day! Glad you enjoyed this! 🙂

      • 5cheekymonkeys March 11, 2016 / 9:55 am

        oh I do not love being a broken record, I keep having to remind myself it won’t last forever haha.

        • cheskaaanels March 11, 2016 / 10:00 am

          Haha we hope, although I doubt it will ever stop!

  7. Gav Achpalea March 11, 2016 / 10:15 am

    Heard this from an expert in childhood education – parenting is one of the most challenging and one of the most rewarding jobs in the world.

  8. Nina Alexander March 11, 2016 / 11:02 am

    I think I got a panic attack reading your blog… I am yet to become a parent and I have always been unsure about it… It does, indeed, seem like something very brave to do… I salute you!

    • cheskaaanels March 11, 2016 / 11:47 am

      Haha awwh thank you!! Honestly no one should go into it half heartedly it takes a lot!

  9. Alexithymia_Shubhi March 11, 2016 / 11:16 am

    handling kids really requires lots of energy..All mothers should be always appreciated for all the troubles they take to bring up their child 🙂

    • cheskaaanels March 11, 2016 / 11:48 am

      Absolutely! I think a lot of people struggle to see how tiring parenting is as a whole its not until you are in it that you know!

  10. Jessie March 11, 2016 / 11:23 am

    Your writing style is extremely nice. Now you reminded me to appreciate my mom’s effort even more! Thank you. 🙂

    • cheskaaanels March 11, 2016 / 11:49 am

      Awwh thank you! I love hearing when people appreciate my writing 🙂 haha its true I wish I’d have known sooner!

  11. ratishagoyal March 11, 2016 / 12:12 pm

    You’ve made me rethink about it, girl!;) Lol! loved it. 🙂

    • cheskaaanels March 11, 2016 / 1:04 pm

      Hahaha oh no! I’m sorry! It really is rewarding though! However you need tons of energy, I’m 24 and its a struggle sometimes!

  12. wittylittleliar March 11, 2016 / 1:08 pm

    Love this post, I am not yet a parent but know I someday want to be. There are tons of kids in my family so although I’m not a parent the post was still relatable. I admire parents everywhere.

  13. laurahartleyy March 11, 2016 / 1:30 pm

    The only thing I can relate to here is the cat meowing in the morning! Can’t imagine dealing with that and all the rest of these things on top of that. Hats off to you!

    • cheskaaanels March 11, 2016 / 1:47 pm

      Hahaha! You’ve no idea how much this comment has made my day! Thank you! Xox

  14. Tha Success Queen March 11, 2016 / 1:48 pm

    I liked how you used the spring chicken phrase in a different way than I heard it before “I’m not a spring chicken straight away” Not ready to say any more just not right away. Loved that how you started out you engaged me right away

    • cheskaaanels March 11, 2016 / 2:05 pm

      Awwh I’m really pleased this was an enjoyable read for you! Thank you!

  15. lynnblackmar March 11, 2016 / 2:28 pm

    I have tons of respect for my friends who are moms. And to those here who talked about being single moms, bless you! How hard that must be! I would like to adopt sometime soon, but kids require so much that I want to make sure I can give them what they need.

    • cheskaaanels March 11, 2016 / 2:30 pm

      Yes I often wonder how single mums do it! They are superhuman!! Awwh adopting is something I have on my heart too but with 2 children of my own right now isn’t the right time. Kids really do require a lot but they sure as hell inspire you!

  16. Joanna March 11, 2016 / 4:49 pm

    Oh my, that was a very, very long morning! I don’t think I could ever do it, being a mom itself is a full time job.

    • cheskaaanels March 11, 2016 / 4:53 pm

      Oh 100% and yes so tiring sometimes I feel like I’ve done a whole day and ready for bed after a couple of hours haha!

  17. annamariavas9 March 11, 2016 / 7:46 pm

    Omg being a parent is much harder than a “proper job” i got tired even by reading this im not ready for this. However it seems like definitely worth it.

  18. EG III March 12, 2016 / 5:46 am

    So vivid. I felt like was with you every step of the way! Parenting is definitely a full-time job.

    • cheskaaanels March 12, 2016 / 7:08 am

      Haha I’m glad you got a little snippet of how crazy my life can be! Xox

  19. fashionandstylepolice March 12, 2016 / 9:28 am

    What a great post. I have twin toddlers. They are 2 now and my house is a mad house so I can relate. I am tired as soon as I wake up. Lol.

    • cheskaaanels March 12, 2016 / 9:50 am

      Hahaha omg I can’t even imagine how you have managed twins!! 1 newborn was more than enough for me! Haha they only get more crazy as time passes!

  20. Alex March 12, 2016 / 12:59 pm

    Wow oh wow! What a morning you had / have each day! A lot of my friends have kids and I think they know how cute they are and take FULL advantage of it (like when you are being hit with a heavy toy but have this cute smirk looking back at you)

    • cheskaaanels March 12, 2016 / 1:01 pm

      Hahaha its so true! They get away with a lot out of shear cutness!

  21. Ana De Jesus March 12, 2016 / 11:36 pm

    It is true being a parent is difficult and I truly admire bloggers that have children but still manage to write their blogs that is an amazing feat. Parenting is not always rosy but it is always rosy!

    • cheskaaanels March 13, 2016 / 8:19 am

      I like that!! ‘Parenting is not always rosy but it is always rosy’ thats exactly it!!

  22. Mr Tom James March 14, 2016 / 9:08 am

    I can relate to everything you said as I used to be a nursery nurse I had 30 of the little rascals every day I don’t envy you with the nappy changing! Joys of children 🙂

    • cheskaaanels March 14, 2016 / 9:49 am

      Oh goodness! I don’t know how you can handle 30!! I thought I wanted to be a primary school teacher but that changed once I had my own children haha

  23. Caroline O October 9, 2016 / 10:25 pm

    I loved this post! Even though I don’t want kids, this was an insight to parenthood and it is great! x

    • cheskaaanels October 10, 2016 / 10:07 am

      Ahhh I’m glad you enjoyed the read even though you don’t really want children, Parenthood is great but its has it challenging moments haha!

  24. SGXSTYLING October 9, 2016 / 11:26 pm

    That’s one hectic morning! And I bet that’s one of the quieter ones! Its definitely harder than a full time job but at least it is also even more rewarding xxx

    • cheskaaanels October 10, 2016 / 10:08 am

      Hahaha definitely one of the quieter ones!

  25. Tiffany Amber December 12, 2016 / 4:23 pm

    I think this is a great reminder for me! I need to remember what being a parent takes, sometimes I take my mom for granted. Thank you for the reminder 🙂
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    • cheskaaanels December 12, 2016 / 4:29 pm

      Awwh I think we all do growing up, it isn’t until you have your own kids that you realise just how much they do for us and how much they love us!! If my mum was still around I would thank her every single day of my life! Xox

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