Life is a funny thing, we’re taught right off the bat that making friends is the thing to do, well you can’t go through life without friends right? The only thing about making friends is how do we determine wether the people we are building those relationships with are genuine, nice, likeminded people? No matter how much you get to know someone, how much you have in common with them, there really is no telling how genuine they are; that is until they fuck up! Sometimes I wish this would happen sooner rather than later. I hate wasting time on the wrong people, I hate creating friendships with people who can’t and won’t understand me, I hate that friendship isn’t so much more straight forward! I have had a series of bad friendships, now looking back on those I’m not so open and trusting towards others anymore. I’m much more weary and to be honest this has effected my ability in making new friends and building new relationships. Luckily for you I know the tell tale signs of a fake mate, and here they are for your own benefit so you can determine who’s the bitch to ditch!
Watch out for those ‘friends’ that constantly criticise you. It could be the littlest thing from your lipstick choice to the new shoes you just brought, or it could be a big thing like your sexuality and who you’ve fallen for! People who constantly find ways to put you down and make you feel crap about yourself have no space in your life, they don’t want to see you happy, they definitely don’t want you to succeed and God forbid looking prettier or like you’ve made more effort than them. People who feel threatened by you will make you feel like you’re worth nothing, they’ll constantly throw hurtful, questionable comments your way & find something to criticise.
You’ll identify a fake friend if you often feel used by them. These guys are only your friend when they want something from you or out of you, they can quite easily go without seeing or talking to you for months on end but as soon as they require something you’ll get a random text or phone call. These people don’t even care about how you’re doing because its all about them, if you can’t help them they are prone to start acting stroppy with you or completely stop texting you. True friend?
These ‘friends’ will try to make you feel riddled with guilt in the event that you can’t see them or commit to a night out. They often ask you out last minute expecting you to drop all your plans, family or chill time just to make them happy. These are the classic ‘world revolves around me’ types and they expect you to follow suit because you know, your life doesn’t matter! You might want to just enjoy a day in, no makeup, pjs on and a big chill but don’t tell them that because they’ll fly off the handles telling you how crap a friend you are! No, remember at times like these you have your own life and you’re entitled to do whatever the fuck pleases you!! Don’t allow someone to guilt you into spending time with them, you won’t enjoy it anyway!
‘Don’t tell them I told you but…’ does this sound familiar? We all like a good gossip but when someone is constantly exposing other peoples business and digging someone out I think its safe to assume they are probably doing the same to you! Be careful what you tell these friends because someone like this won’t hesitate to write a tell all book about you and use it against you! These ‘friends’ are untrustworthy and cause more drama than you’ll see in Eastenders. Watch out!
Ever had a ‘friend’ not invite you to certain things because ‘well you was too busy to hang out with me the other day’? If you feel miffed off for not being invited somewhere thats perfectly normal, these friends will make out that its all your fault when actually they just didn’t have the courtesy to be a real friend. Even if we can’t make something it always nice to feel welcome and get an invite to begin with, no one wants to see all their friends hanging out together through photos on Facebook and wonder what they’ve done wrong. P.S you haven’t done anything wrong, your so called friend is just being cruel!