5 Natural ways to up your sex drive!

I think its safe to say we all love sex!! Everyone seems so obsessed with Fifty shades of grey, online porn and the growing world of sex toys, its a rapidly growing market thats for sure. Sex can sell just about anything from kinky lingerie to penis straws and all the in between! The greatest thing about sex is that its so versatile. We all like to get down in our own way, and with a growing number of ways to do it your sex life really is what you make it! However saying that, it’s totally normal with our busy lifestyles to sometimes feel a bit deflated in the sex department. Having a loss of libido is a really common thing for both women and men to go through at some stage. This can be for a number of different reasons so don’t pressure yourself into being more freak than meek when this happens! Instead here are a few natural ways that you can up your sex drive and you might just want to try them!

Get enough sleep!

This is an important one even if it is really bloody obvious – you need to make sure you’re getting enough rest with a good nights sleep! Your body needs the time to recharge and relax before you can seize the day the right way! This can be more difficult for some than others, I remember my sex life taking a bit of a hit once I had my first child. Sleepless nights, constant feeds, being on call 24 hours of the day with little rest was exhausting, the last thing on my mind was sex! Getting enough rest keeps everything in balance from your mental welfare to your physical need so once you start sleeping better you might notice a difference in your libido!!

Eat dark chocolate

This might sound like a silly old wives tale to you but there is a true science behind it! Dark chocolate is said to have aphrodisiac qualities as it supports the production of serotonin in our bodies. Dark chocolate also contains phenylethylamine which is a compound that we produce when we have feelings of being in love! So eating a little dark chocolate everyday could very well act as a natural libido lifting medicine, who wouldn’t want an excuse to have a cheeky nibble?!

Eat good for you foods

Eating foods that are better for your body will help diminish the bloated feeling you usually get after eating a big meal. Feeling confident and happy in your own skin is a big factor when it comes to sex, a lack of confidence is often one of the main reasons you might not want to have sex – If our bodies feel good so will we! You’ll also notice a rise in your energy levels from eating better for you foods, this can even help with feelings of stress and depression which are both major sex drive killers!

Practice meditation or yoga 

Again this is another reliever or stress as well as anxiety and depression. Taking time out to meditate for 5 minutes a day could be all you need to help you on your way to a healthier, happier you – A healthy happier you = A higher sex drive! Practising yoga is a really great way to relieve feelings of stress since it incorporates both light exercise (which releases Endorphines) and meditation. Why not take it a step further and try doing this together with your partner? This will allow you both time to bond together which can be really beneficial to your relationship and your sex life!

Consult your GP

If none of the above have helped to up your lack of libido the next step should be to visit your GP. Our bodies go through a lot so sometimes an underlined medical issue could be the reason you’re not quite feeling yourself in the bedroom. Its always best to be seen medically to ease any doubt or worrying! If you’re on some form of contraception there could also be a link to that with feelings of having a lower sexual desire, consult your GP as moving on to another form of contraception might just do the trick.

However you’re feeling in terms of your want and need of sex, you should remember that suffering with a low libido happens to everyone and you should never feel pressured into doing anything you might not want to – In fact that could case more harm to your sex life than good! Most importantly remember to always speak openly to your partner about sex and how you might be feeling so that you’re both on the same page, communication is key!!



  1. Lisa prince March 24, 2017 / 6:02 pm

    maybe i need to look into this more i seem to have lost mine after baby x

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 24, 2017 / 6:28 pm

      Its perfectly normal especially when there is as big of a change as having a baby!! You’ll come through it!

  2. Nayna Kanabar March 24, 2017 / 8:34 pm

    Some great advise, eating healthy is definitely a good tip as is being relaxed.

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 24, 2017 / 9:08 pm

      Definitely makes me feel better for sure!

  3. Melanie March 24, 2017 / 9:00 pm

    Hey lovely, some great advice here. Fab post thanks for sharing 🙂 x

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 24, 2017 / 9:09 pm

      Glad you think so 🙂 thanks a lot Melanie!

  4. Becca March 24, 2017 / 9:57 pm

    Since he’s been diagnosed with depression, my partner and my sex life has been non-existent, and he’s had no libido at all, sadly. Will try discussing some of these tips with him!

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 24, 2017 / 10:13 pm

      Sorry to hear about the struggle you are both having right now! Depression is really tough and it can change a heck of a lot in any relationship. Patience and communication is key here if you are both open and talk about things rather than skirt around them you’ll be doing yourselves a great comfort!

  5. abbeylouisarose March 25, 2017 / 8:19 am

    Great post Francesca! This is probably an issue that affects more people than we realise, and it’s something that not a lot of people talk openly about, so good for you for tackling it head-on! All of these suggestions are great not just for upping libido but for a happy and healthy life in general! Top tips 💕

    Abbey ✨ http://www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 25, 2017 / 8:24 am

      Awwh thank you Abbey!! Glad you enjoyed the read! Its definitely something that effects all of us at least once in our lives and like you said its often not talked about! Hope these tips can help someone out!

  6. melissa major March 25, 2017 / 9:49 am

    Some very helpful advice here, enough sleep and eating a good diet helps so much

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 25, 2017 / 11:11 am

      Yeah for sure I know I feel better for those things!

  7. Jemma March 25, 2017 / 10:46 am

    Some great tips and advice here, thanks for sharing 🙂

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 25, 2017 / 11:11 am


  8. Rhian Westbury March 25, 2017 / 12:57 pm

    I definitely think communication is good, and the eating right. I sometimes find when I have a really heavy meal it lowers my sex drive as I feel more bloated x

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 25, 2017 / 2:35 pm

      Yeah thats totally the same here!

  9. Anna nuttall March 25, 2017 / 4:25 pm

    Oh lalala.. Very nice post. Someone once told me to eat raw chilli before doing it. I never tried it as I don’t like raw chilli…xx

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 25, 2017 / 4:46 pm

      Hahaha I have heard that one but its one I’m certainly not willing to try!!

  10. Sarah Bailey March 25, 2017 / 6:05 pm

    I think many people go through a period of lower libido at times, for many different reasons. You’ve shared some great advice for ways to try naturally deal with this x

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 25, 2017 / 8:57 pm

      Exactly its perfectly normal!

  11. Ana De- Jesus March 26, 2017 / 3:12 pm

    I agree, lack of sleep does have an impact on your libido. I don’t have children but when I am tired, I am less sexually active xx

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 26, 2017 / 7:38 pm

      Yeah totally need to get a good rest up!!

  12. fashionmommy March 27, 2017 / 12:09 pm

    Great post, people do seem to forget that your mind and wellbeing are all linked to your sex drive, this is a good reminder.

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 27, 2017 / 6:38 pm

      Absolutely I’m so glad you enjoyed this one!

  13. Tamsin March 27, 2017 / 8:41 pm

    Great advice re consulting GP. Sometimes medication messes with libido and people aren’t aware.

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 27, 2017 / 10:31 pm

      Exactly its definitely beneficial to check if anything could be an issue in that sense!

  14. The London Mum March 27, 2017 / 8:59 pm

    Sex is so important in a relationship and making sure we try and live a lifestyle that is conducive to good sex is ultimately what I think keeps couples happy.

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 27, 2017 / 10:32 pm

      Definitely a key part of a relationship for sure!

  15. Anosa March 29, 2017 / 5:04 pm

    I definitely love your list. It is really important to communicate with your partner. Let the two of you discuss on maybe what to improve or what are the necessary for each other. It is good to know that both enjoys the night.

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk March 29, 2017 / 6:29 pm


  16. Rosie April 17, 2017 / 2:42 pm

    I don’t need a lot of help in this department haha but these are all really good tips! Really normal lovely post as always!

    • francescaferrarinelson@yahoo.co.uk April 17, 2017 / 3:37 pm

      Awwh thank you Rosie glad you thought it could be helpful to others!!

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